This project exists to protect a simple truth. Kids need both parents when it is safe. Too often, one parent is cut out of a child’s life through manipulation, gatekeeping, and a court system that is slow to correct it. That pattern has a name: parental alienation. It breaks bonds, twists memories, and turns love into paperwork.
The Kacey Project started with one father and one daughter. It now stands for every family who knows that a child should not be used as a weapon. We tell the truth, we document the process, and we push for equal access and due process. No excuses. No spin.
The mission
Bring public awareness to parental alienation and how it harms children
Defend a child’s right to meaningful relationships with both fit parents
Challenge the incentives and delays that reward gatekeeping
Offer honest tools for fathers and mothers who refuse to give up
Model accountability, integrity, and nonviolence in the middle of conflict
If you have felt shut out, lied about, or slowly erased from your child’s life, you are not alone. This project is for you and your kids.
Parental alienation, in plain language
Parental alienation is when one parent manipulates a child into unjustifiably rejecting the other parent. It is not the same as estrangement that follows real abuse. It is a pattern of behaviors that poison the bond and drive contact to zero. Researchers and clinicians have documented how these behaviors hurt kids long after the case file is closed. Anxiety, depression, isolation. It sticks.
Yes, professionals debate labels and definitions. Courts and agencies should be careful, fair, and evidence based. But let’s not pretend the behavior is rare or harmless. Children pay the price when adults play games with access.
Where the story lives
The book: Pillars of Strength, Fatherhood and the Weight of Truth
This book is the spine of the project. It is a straight shot of accountability. No fluff. No victim posture. It lays out what happens when a father chooses integrity over convenience and keeps showing up for his child. The chapters speak about mistakes, course corrections, and the long grind for access. The message is simple. Tell the truth, own your choices, and fight for your kids without hate in your heart.
Road Trip Ireland is a raw account of crossing borders and systems to stay present in a daughter’s life. It explains the rules on paper and the reality at the window when a parent is told to leave. Watch it. It will make you angry for the right reasons, and it will make you steady.
What we do, exactly
Document: We keep a public trail. Court filings, timelines, and receipts. Sunlight matters.
Educate: We explain parental alienation in clear terms and point to credible research. No junk science.
Advocate: We push for reforms that center the child and punish gatekeeping. Shared parenting as a default when both parents are fit. Real consequences for contempt of court.
Support: We point targeted parents to community, therapy, and lawful strategies that keep them grounded and effective.
Why it matters
Kids are not case numbers. When a child is coached to fear a loving parent, the damage is deep. Studies show that alienating behaviors in childhood are linked to mental health problems later in life. Adults who lived it report lower life satisfaction and more conflict in relationships. The harm is real and it is preventable.
At the same time, we reject the misuse of alienation claims to cover up real abuse. Safety first. Evidence first. The difference between alienation and justified estrangement is critical, and professionals must make that call with care.
Principles we stand on
Child first: Safety, stability, and access to both parents when safe
Truth over tactics: No lies, no smear campaigns, no fake emergencies
Evidence and due process: No secret decisions, no rubber stamps
Shared parenting: The best default when parents are fit and willing
Accountability: Real penalties for ignored orders and proven manipulation
Dignity: No revenge. No parent wins when a child loses
How you can help
Read and share the book. It is free. Pass it on.
Watch the video and share the story with your network.
Invite a talk for your community, church, or men’s group.
Support targeted parents. Offer childcare, rides, or just time to listen.
Push reforms. Ask lawmakers for shared parenting defaults, faster timelines, and enforcement with teeth.
A word to the system
If your paycheck depends on conflict that never ends, you are part of the problem. Family law should not be a casino where the house always wins. Kids are not chips on the felt. Build a process that rewards cooperation, punishes games, and closes cases quickly when parents are fit. The longer the fight, the deeper the wound.
A word to parents
Do not disappear. Do not rage. Document, breathe, show up, and keep your head. Your child may not hear you today. Keep speaking the truth with your life. It matters.
Why the name
This project carries my daughter’s name to remind me what this is about. Not politics. Not internet drama. A little girl with a father who will never stop being her father. That is the point. That is the promise.
Stay human
Parental alienation is like taping over a child’s family photo and telling them the missing face never existed. We remove the tape. We help kids see their whole family again.
